His Controlling Mother Refuses To Accept His New Partner. He Finally Snapped After She Said Something Inexcusable. Should He Apologize or Cut Ties?

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A man recently posted on Reddit for advice following an argument with his controlling mom, who refuses to accept his new girlfriend. Everything came to a head at a family get-together when his mom got drunk and was verbally abusive to his partner. He finally snapped, but now he’s the one being told to apologize. Here’s the story…

The Background

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The Original Poster (OP) starts his tale by explaining he has three lovely boys who he raised by himself for a long time. He’d broken up with his ex-partner years ago, after finding out she’d been unfaithful. They decided to co-parent, but she was never really present and, after giving birth to their youngest, packed up and left altogether. He hasn’t seen her since.

His Mom’s Always Been Controlling

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OP’s mom has always been very controlling over his life. She seemed to envision a specific life plan for him throughout his youth, and tried to control all aspects of it – from his education to his relationships.

OP’s Mom Loved His Ex

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Despite his ex-girlfriends many flaws, his mom thought she was perfect. She loved her. So much so, in fact, that she victim-blamed OP when he told her the circumstances of his ex-girlfriend’s departure. According to his mom, he must have done something wrong or not treated her “like a gentleman.” For these sorts of reasons, OP doesn’t have much contact with his mom anymore. He feels like he’ll always be a failure in her eyes.

He Has a New Girlfriend Now

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Thankfully, OP’s met someone new, called Fiona, who he loves very much. They’ve been together for three years now and his boys all adore her. His youngest even calls her “mum.” However, not everyone’s as happy with this new dynamic…

His Mom Hates Her

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OP’s mom has made it very clear that she doesn’t like Fiona. After all, she’s not his ex, so she can never be good enough.

They Went to His Mom’s Birthday Celebration

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After an invitation from OP’s dad, they decided to attend a family celebration for his mom’s birthday. His dad assured him there’d be no drama if Fiona came. Unfortunately, it didn’t quite work out like that…

His Mom Was Drinking Heavily

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By the afternoon of her birthday, OP’s mom had drunk way too much. She started chasing OP’s son around the yard, trying to be playful. However, she ended up scaring the boy, who ran over to Fiona for comfort.

An Argument Ensued

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Unhappy that he’d run from her, OP’s mom started cursing out his seven-year-old son. Fiona wasn’t having it. She yelled back it his mom, saying she can’t yell at “her son.” This didn’t go down well. OP’s mom starts raging for everyone to hear about how Fiona will never be the boy’s real mom. Their real mom would mom would have never “poisoned their heads and caused them to be afraid of their own grandmother.”

OP Snapped

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Fiona was taken aback by what his mom was saying, but OP stepped in. He shouted, “Maybe my kids are scared of you because you’re a ******* monster!”

His Dad Wants Him to Apologize

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OP, Fiona, and the kids left almost straight after the argument. However, his dad got in touch by text, saying he shouldn’t have said that to his mother when she was “clearly having a breakdown.” His dad tried to explain away his mom’s behavior, then asked OP to be the first to apologize. OP doesn’t want to.

Reddit’s On His Side

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Almost everyone on Reddit was on OP’s side, agreeing his mom was in the wrong. One of the most upvoted comments said, “There’s a difference between a breakdown and a tantrum. Your mom was having the latter. Personally I wouldn’t want someone in my life who treated me, my SO and my kids poorly.”

He Shouldn’t Apologize

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Other people couldn’t believe there was even a question over who was wrong here and agreed he shouldn’t say sorry. Fantasymix_1343 wrote, “Your mom was being toxic and if I were you I would cut contact with her. I’m happy you seem to have met a lovely woman that sees your kids as her own. I wish you, Fiona and the kids the best! DO NOT APOLOGIZE! Your dad is enabling her behavior.”

His Mom’s Unhinged and His Dad’s Spineless

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Most people were also quick to defend OP, saying that both of his parents were guilty of wrongdoing. One said, “She’s had 3 years to get used to Fiona! She wasn’t having a meltdown… she was acting like an unhinged AH.” Another wrote, “Spineless fathers and abusive mothers. A much too common occurrence.”

And a third put, “Your father wants to keep the peace by not holding your mother accountable for her actions – it sounds like a bad environment for your family. You’d be well within your rights to go NC or LC with your mother.”

What’s Your Opinion?

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Do you agree with the general consensus on Reddit – that OP has nothing to apologize for? And that his mom’s the problem here? Or should he apologize first for what he said? Drop a comment with your thoughts!

 

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