Tensions often arise when family members uphold contrasting values. Recently, a newly transitioned vegan daughter got called “a hypocrite” by her meat-eating family. Despite frequently admonishing them as “animal murderers,” the daughter surprised her family by indulging in a meat-loaded “cheat meal” for her birthday. Here’s the full story, as appeared on Reddit:
Her Daughter Went Vegetarian Recently
The Original Poster (OP) is a 45-year-old mother with a 12-year-old daughter who recently went vegetarian. OP supports her daughter’s choices, but problems soon arose when she began shaming the family’s meat-eating ways…
The Daughter Made Snarky Comments
OP’s daughter seemed to want the whole family to go vegetarian, passing comments like “you know that will just sit in your colon right?” and “It doesn’t make you THE murderer, but it def makes you the accomplice.” OP tried letting these “snooty” comments slide, but they soon started to grate on everyone – especially her son…
She Targets Her Brother
OP’s 7-year-old son was on the receiving end of many of the daughter’s comments. When he told OP that she’d twice said he and his friends were “loser(s) for eating meat,” she stepped in and confiscated her daughter’s phone. Unfortunately, it didn’t make any difference…
Her Daughter Deflects Accountability
Whenever OP tried to tell her daughter how “she does not get to make rude remarks about people’s lifestyle choices like that” or take her phone away, her reaction was the same: crying. She’d run to her room, break down, and start bawling her eyes out. And when OP attempted to have a conversation about this with her, she didn’t want to do that either. OP sees this as her trying to run away from any accountability.
It Was Her Son’s Birthday Recently
While these problems and arguments continued on and off, it was time for OP to celebrate her son’s birthday. And what better place to go to than his favorite restaurant? The restaurant had plenty of vegetarian options for her daughter, so she wasn’t worried about that. However, she didn’t expect what happened when they all ordered…
Her Daughter Wanted Meat
When it was her supposedly anti-meat-eating daughter’s time to order, she asked the waiter for a hamburger with cheese. This confused OP. But, upon asking, her daughter said she was “taking a break since it’s a special occasion.”
OP Called Out Her Hypocrisy
OP asked the waiter to cancel her daughter’s order and give them some time to talk things through. She wasn’t happy, telling her daughter that she’d been “nothing but a jerk” to them about eating meat, so she either had to stick to her dietary choices at the restaurant or “get nothing at all.”
Her Daughter Got Upset
This scolding didn’t go down well with OP’s daughter. She refused to look at her mother while she was talking and kept her head glued to the table at the restaurant. She started crying as well and wouldn’t talk to her parents throughout the entire meal, even when they asked if she needed some space.
When the family came home from the restaurant, OP’s daughter stayed silent and just went to her room; her husband blamed OP for ruining the night. But was OP in the wrong? Things have got so bad with her daughter that she says she’s seriously “considering therapy” for their family issues. What did Reddit think?
Some People Were On OP’s Side
Many people on Reddit thought what OP did was justifiable. For example, one person said, “She’s calling the whole family murderers, telling the whole family that they’re killing themselves for eating meat, but the second she decides that SHE can be a murderer and SHE can kill herself with meat, no one is allowed to say anything? Nope.”
Other Redditors Blamed OP
However, some said that OP was being too hard on her daughter: “Even adults have to explore their options in various ways as they consider committing to a lifestyle change. She’s 12. Children are allowed to change their minds, and try new things so don’t punish her for that.”
What Do You Think?
So what’s your perspective? Did OP handle the latest situation with her daughter well? Is her daughter the guilty party here? Or should OP have done something differently at any point? Drop a comment with your thoughts!
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