After a huge clash with her sister, a woman posted on Reddit for advice. When she refused to host her unruly nephew’s 16th birthday at her place because of his ill-treatment of her dog, her sister accused her of valuing a pet over family. Is that unreasonable, though? Here’s the full story:
The Original Poster (OP) starts by explaining that she lives on a large property that once belonged to her grandma. She’d bought it at a budget price from her elderly relative after she moved into a retirement community.
Her Sister Asked to Host a Party There
OP also explains that she has a nephew who is about to turn 16. Her sister, who remained nameless throughout the story, asked OP if they could host his birthday party at the “family property.” She meant OP’s house…
OP said no. Why? Because she’s banned her nephew from going to her place. Apparently, he has no respect for boundaries and “treats everything like his plaything,” including OP’s elderly dog, Davos.
He Doesn’t Treat Her Dog Well
Her nephew constantly chases Davos and tries to pick him up despite OP telling him not to. Her dog has arthritis and hates loud noises, so this treatment – not to mention a potential birthday party – is the last thing he needs.
Her Sister Was Furious
Despite her reasons for not hosting the party, OP’s sister wasn’t happy. She accused OP of “putting a dog before [her] nephew.” Not only that, but she told OP it wasn’t even her property. It was their grandma’s, so she couldn’t dictate what happened there.
An Argument Ensued
OP replied that it most definitely was her property. She’d bought it, she looks after it, and she handles all the utilities for it. So no matter what her sister thought, the property’s hers to do with as she pleases.
Her Mom Got Involved
OP’s mom tried to intervene, too. She called OP and asked whether she could just put Davos in a room for the party and “suck it up for just a day.” Again, OP declined. She told her mom that it’s her house; her dog can do what he wants and that she isn’t just going to lock him away somewhere.
The Family’s Divided
OP’s family is torn on the issue. Some of them think OP’s being immature and putting herself first. Others say she’s doing the right thing. A few, including her dad, are simply refusing to get involved. That’s why OP turned to Reddit. Did they think she was in the wrong?
Reddit Was On Her Side
People on Reddit thought OP had nothing to apologize for. She was simply respecting her boundaries. The top comment said:
“Your nephew (and his mother) are learning that actions have consequences. Best birthday gift you could give him.”
The Problem Lies With the Sister and Nephew
Others agreed the blame lay elsewhere, saying this wouldn’t be a problem if OP’s nephew respected her boundaries in the first place. One person said:
“Yeah, OP wouldn’t have to choose between the nephew and the dog if the human being who is approaching adulthood and is capable of understanding spoken language would just leave the dog alone.” Another added, “If the almost-16-year-old wasn’t a terror, this would be a non-issue.”
What Do You Think?
So whose side are you on? Do you think OP was being unreasonable? Should she have made an exception for her nephew’s birthday party and agreed to shut her dog away? Or, like the people on Reddit, do you think her nephew and sister are the real bad guys? Drop a comment with your thoughts.
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