A man recently posted on Reddit about his insecure wife, who befriends people she deems “lesser” so she can feel better about herself. Problems started when one of these friends turned her life around, sparking jealousy in his wife. She doubled down on her insults, but the friend fought back. Here’s the story (and why the man landed in hot water):
The Original Poster (OP) mentioned that he’s been married to his wife for nine years, and they have a son together. He also said his wife has a long-standing habit of befriending people she considers “beneath” her. Why? To boost her own self-esteem.
OP’s Wife Insults Her Friends
OP observed that all his wife’s friends were either physically out of shape or faced challenges with their mental health or finances. He believed she chose to surround herself with such individuals due to her deep-seated insecurities. She spoke of them as charity cases and often made rude comments about them (even to their face).
The Wife Was Meanest to Candy
Amongst all her friends, though, OP’s wife was apparently cruelest towards one person in particular – Candy. Candy was the youngest of her friends and she had a messy past, full of mental health issues and frequent hospitalizations. She had barely passed high school and struggled to hold down a job.
Candy Cleaned Up Her Act
However, years later, Candy turned her life around. She got help for her mental health issues, acquired a degree, and now works a high-paying job while living in a comfortable house with her husband and three children. OP describes it as “a complete 180.”
OP’s Wife Was Jealous of Candy
Unfortunately, watching Candy do better than her did not sit well with his wife. Accustomed to being the most “with it” in her friendship circle, she couldn’t make peace with Candy’s successes and started to double down on the hurtful comments…
His Wife Took Things Too Far
While at Candy’s house recently, OP’s wife raised concerns over her parenting skills, asking how she was even fit to take care of her children given all her mental health problems. Upon hearing this, Candy – who was tipsy – came back with the perfect retort…
Candy Stood Up for Herself
Once upon a time, Candy would just accept his wife’s insults. But this time she confronted her. In OP’s memory, she said something like:
“You know, when I was young, I took your words to heart, until I learned you were just as messed up as me. And I realized to fully get back at all the ways you hurt me, there wasn’t a point in telling you or asking for an apology, it was simply by being better than you. And now I am.”
OP’s Reaction Stirred the Hornet’s Nest
Hearing that, OP couldn’t help but laugh – “not so much out of humor but more shock.” Alas, his laughter had consequences…
His Wife Was Furious
OP’s wife gave him a “death stare” and stormed out of Candy’s place. She then sent him an angry text saying that she would take the car and leave without him if he didn’t come out immediately. He obliged, but the two remained silent during the car ride home. When they got there, OP’s wife went to their bedroom and started crying.
OP’s Wife Kicked Him Out
OP tried to console her but got yelled at in return. His wife threw his stuff at him and demanded he leave the house immediately. At the time of writing his Reddit post, OP was still at his parent’s place. For what it was worth, his mom and dad don’t think he did anything wrong – but they also dislike his wife! So he wanted Reddit’s opinion instead. What did they think?
Reddit Advised OP To Leave His Wife
One of the most upvoted comments on the thread said, “Your wife is extremely messed up, and you might give some thought to taking your son and leaving before she messes him up. You are so close to her that you may not even have a good view of how being with someone like her changes your sense of right and wrong. See a therapist.”
OP Is Considering Therapy
There was an outpour of hate for OP’s wife and repeated comments suggesting that OP take therapy to realize how narcissistic his wife’s behavior really is. OP responded by saying that he would definitely consider taking therapy for himself and for the sake of his son.
What Are Your Thoughts?
What is your opinion? Does OP’s wife display potentially dangerous narcissistic traits? Should OP distance himself and his son from his wife? Or should he suck it up for the sake of his child and his marriage?
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