A woman has turned to Reddit for a second opinion following an argument with her overbearing mother-in-law (MIL). After convincing her to reveal the gender beforehand, it emerged that the MIL had broken her promise to keep it a secret until the gender reveal party. But now her husband wants her to apologize to his mom. Here’s the story:
She Didn’t Want a Party
The original poster (OP) began her tale by explaining that she hadn’t wanted a gender reveal party in the first place. However, she’d gone along with it because it seemed so important to her in-laws.
She Didn’t Know the Gender
OP didn’t know the baby’s gender at that point, but her MIL didn’t believe her. Far from it. She was convinced OP knew it and insisted she told her. The MIL worked on OP for weeks, sending message after message begging her to reveal the gender and – this bit’s important – promising to keep it a secret.
OP Gave In
Tired of being bothered by her MIL, OP caved. Despite not knowing the gender of her child, she told her it was a girl – justifying the fib by saying it was a 50/50 chance anyway. As much as anything else, though, OP just wanted her MIL to get off her case about it.
Her MIL Lied Too
The day of the party arrived. But when OP and her husband cut the cake to reveal the blue sponge inside, they didn’t get the reaction they’d expected. Instead of cheers from all corners of the room, there was an awkward silence. Why? Because her MIL had already told her husband’s side of the family it was going to be a girl.
Her MIL Wasn’t Happy
OP’s guests were over the moon and came straight over to say congratulations. Alas, her MIL wasn’t quite so happy about the news. She came over and “hissed” that OP had made her look stupid in front of everyone. OP responded by reminding her of her promise not to reveal the gender.
OP Went Though the Messages
Did MIL apologize and take responsibility for her role in the mix-up? Of course not. She denied making any sort of promise in the first place. Thankfully, OP had the messages to prove it. As she went through them, some of the MIL’s family were in the vicinity to hear the truth of the matter.
Her MIL Got Upset
Despite the proof that she’d a) lied and b) stolen OP’s thunder by revealing the gender before the party, the MIL wasn’t ready to back down. She said it was a “d*** move” and accused OP of doing it to embarrass her. But remember, OP hadn’t known the gender and had told that to her MIL numerous times – a fact she didn’t hesitate to remind her MIL about at the party.
Who Was In the Wrong?
OP’s husband wants things to blow over, so he’s keen for her to apologize to his MIL. Should she do it, though? OP thinks she probably will eventually. But she also doesn’t think she’s the sole guilty party.
Reddit’s On Her Side
Unsurprisingly perhaps, OP’s MIL didn’t come off particularly well in the comments section on Reddit. The decision was unanimous: OP hadn’t done anything wrong; her MIL had embarrassed herself. One Redditor said, “‘I’m sorry you embarrassed yourself by lying’ is about the only apology I’d be willing to give.”
Don’t Apologise Just to Keep the Peace
Others chimed in to say it would be wrong of OP to apologize. It’d set a dangerous precedent. One user wrote:
“I’m sick of people being told they should apologise when they did nothing wrong in order to keep the peace. Being forced to appease bullies/people who break boundaries is harmful. Submerging yourself to please others is harmful. Not having the person who did wrong held to account is harmful.” Another added, “I hate that the husband wants op to apologize. She’s literally the wronged person here who was harassed and lied to. Husband needs to tell his mother to do the apologizing.”
What Do You Think?
What’s your perspective? Were both of them in the wrong here? And should OP apologize for her part in what happened? Or, like the people on Reddit, do you think the blame lies solely with the MIL? After all, shouldn’t she have a) respected OP enough to stop pestering her about the baby’s gender and then b) kept her promise not to tell anyone? Drop a comment with your thoughts!
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