This soon-to-be bride was flabbergasted when she discovered her mother-in-law had tried on her wedding dress without permission. Understandably furious, the woman issued an ultimatum. However, her fiancé dismissed her reaction, alleging that she was overreacting. Who’s in the wrong? You decide:
The Original Poster (OP) starts by telling readers she’s due to get married soon and, as a result, had recently bought her dress for the big occasion. But there was a problem: her future mother-in-law (MIL) wouldn’t stop pestering her to try the dress on…
She Kept Nagging
OP “firmly refused,” but her MIL persisted. For some unknown reason, she was desperate to see herself wearing OP’s wedding dress. She even offered OP $100 to try it on. OP “shut it down” after that, but her MIL wasn’t done trying…
She Came Home To A Surprise
One day, OP arrived home from work early and found her fiancé there too. Far from being happy to see her, he “freaked out” and tried to stop her from entering the bedroom. It soon became clear why. OP opened the door to find her MIL standing there in her wedding dress…
OP Took A Photo
OP tells Redditors that her initial response was to take out her phone and snap a photo of her MIL in the dress – a quick-thinking decision that made both her fiancé and his mom “freak out.” She told future MIL that she’d “show the whole family the photo,” unless she complied with one very specific demand…
OP Made Her Demands
OP wanted a new dress. Moreover, she wanted it ASAP. She’d show the entire family the photo unless she got a new dress within three days. Her future MIL started to cry and swiftly left the house, leaving OP to deal with her fiancé…
Her Fiancé Was Furious
OP says her fiancé “blew up,” and accused her of overreacting to the situation. From his perspective, his mom simply wanted to “try the dress on” and had caused no harm. Yet that’s not how OP saw things. And she wasn’t going to back down…
But It Was Her Dress
OP was adamant that “the dress should only be worn by the bride.” Now that her future MIL had worn it, she didn’t even want to look at the dress again. She believed his mom should pay for a new one because she’d ruined hers.
Her fiancé has been staying with his mom ever since the argument. She feels bad, but she spent thousands on the dress, and now she doesn’t want/like it. His family thinks she overreacted and is risking the relationship. To “end the conflict,” OP’s fiancé has offered to buy her a new one, but there are conditions…
In return, her fiancé wanted her to delete the photo, “apologize to his mom,” leave the family group chat, and “log out of Facebook” for a month. OP hadn’t responded to his offer at the time of writing, instead turning to Reddit for a fresh perspective. Was she in the wrong? Or would other people have done the same?
Reddit Was On Her Side
Understandably, perhaps, people on Reddit thought OP had nothing to apologize for. Most comments supporting OP thought her fiancé was most responsible. One top comment said: “He knowingly went behind your back.” Another noted, “He let her in. He was going to lie and hide it from you.” And a third said, “He saw his mom in the dress before he saw his fiance in it, and he thinks it’s no big deal. His terms are abusive.’
OP Shouldn’t Go Through With The Wedding
Many community members pleaded with OP not to marry her fiancé, saying things like, “Do not marry this man without addressing and resolving this issue.” Others were more cut-throat, leaving comments such as “He’s a controlling jerk and he will only get worse after marriage” and “Dump the narcs.”
What Do You Think?
So what are your thoughts about OP’s situation? Do you think OP handled the situation well? Or did she overreact? Who’s side are you taking? Let us know what you think in the comments.
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