“You’re Too Old to Party” Says Man to Mid-Thirties Woman on Night Out. Was He “Negging” or Just Nasty?

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A woman in her mid-30s recently shared an incident on Reddit that many females may find relatable. As she was out partying with her friends after midnight, a guy approached her commenting something along the lines of, “Aren’t you too old to be doing this?” But was it an attempt at being nasty, or just a horrid pick-up line?

The Story

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Before we get into people’s opinions and perspectives, let’s take a look at what prompted the question in the first place. The Original Poster (OP), who – as you might have guessed – is in her mid-thirties, explained that she’d recently been at a nice bar with a friend in a new city. At about 2am, a guy walked past…

He Was Unexpectedly Insulting

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This guy turned to OP and her friend, who were both dressed up for the night, and said in a mocking tone: “You guys look like you’ve been out the game for a while. What’s going on?” OP interpreted this to mean: “Like, how dare we go out at this age?” But what did other people think?

He Was “Negging”

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The most upvoted response to OP’s question was that this wasn’t a case of whether or not it was socially unacceptable for women of her age to be out so late. Instead, it sounded like a pick-up-line-gone-wrong. They wrote:

“Maybe it was just the worst pickup line ever. It sounds like he was trying the negging thing but forgot the compliment first.”

Negging Explained

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Someone then chimed in to enlighten those of us who have never heard of “negging.” Apparently, it means to “insult or undermine (someone) in the belief that diminished self-confidence will make them more receptive to se*ual advances.” In other words, this guy was probably trying to chat her up – just in in a weird, backwards, and manipulative way.

Maybe He Hates Women

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The suggestion this guy was negging didn’t receive universal agreement. While another person on Reddit agreed OP’s story probably wasn’t about whether or not it was okay for women in their mid-thirties to party until 2am, they wondered if the guy was actually just a good old-fashioned misogynist. They wrote:

“Bold of you to assume he doesn’t just hate woman and wanted to be a d***. There is a whole lot of resentment out there.”

It’s Not a Problem

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In response to OP’s actual question, though, one Redditor reassured her she’d done nothing wrong whatsoever. They said, “Dude sounds like an idiot, and it’s fine, do what you want.” Somebody else had similar advice: “As a general rule, I heavily recommend not taking on the unrequested opinions of strange d***heads at 2am.”

Don’t Let People Ruin Your Day

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Others chose not to address OP’s query and simply urged her not to doubt herself because of this guy. Indeed, his comments raised the ire of many Redditors on the thread. One said, “Please don’t let one a**hole ruin your day.” And another put:

“[He] was mean on purpose, some narcissistic pr**k that gets off on hurting people. And bless the red flags of this world, they tell us exactly who people are. Hopefully OP wasn’t too bothered by this pr**k, and had a fun time otherwise.”

Alternative Responses

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Some people suggested ways OP could have responded to what the guy said to her. One put, “To which I would have said, ‘Yeah…it’s been tough avoiding a**holes like you, but we’re working on it.” Someone else thought dismissive silence would have been more effective, though:

“Witty responses are fun but they don’t always land the way you imagine. I find just not even reacting its usually the most effective. Basically just suggesting that they’re so insignificant to you that they don’t even register as something worthy of a response. They might as well not even be there.”

Thirty Isn’t Old

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Other Redditors assured OP it’s 100% totally appropriate to be at a bar at 2am as a woman in your mid-thirties. One person, who seemed particularly triggered by the post, wrote: “I am so sick of everybody acting like 30s is old. Can we f****** stop?” Piggybacking on those sentiments, someone added, “It reminds me of 12 year olds thinking 18 is old. 40 isn’t even old.”

What Do You Think?

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So what are your thoughts on this whole affair? First off, in response to OP’s question, is it socially acceptable for a woman in her mid-thirties to hit the bars until 2am? And, that aside, what do you reckon the guy who prompted OP’s doubts was trying to do? Drop a comment with your thoughts.

 

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