Picture this: You’re overdue for a long-awaited golf trip you’ve been planning with your buddies. However, at the last moment, your overburdened wife wants you to stay home and help with the baby. What do you do? Well, this Reddit user chose to go, and, safe to say, his wife was furious. But was he in the wrong? Here’s the full story:
The Original Poster (OP) has a one-year-old son with his wife. When their child was five months old, he’d started organizing a golf trip with his buddies that they’d planned to happen six months later.
She Gave Him the Green Light
Soon after they’d started planning the trip, he asked his wife if she was happy for him to go. She said yes, so he booked it up. Unfortunately, things took a turn recently…
His Wife Was Struggling
Two weeks before he was due to leave, their son was in the middle of a sleep regression. He was waking up multiple times every night and would only settle down with OP’s wife’s intervention. Ultimately, this meant she was the one taking care of him throughout the night.
She Changed Her Mind
After a while of this going on, OP’s wife told him she didn’t want him to go away anymore. Unsure if she could manage with their son all by herself, she wanted him with her at home. This was an obvious problem for OP…
He’d Spent Lots on the Trip
OP tried to be understanding, but he reminder her that she’d said he could go. Furthermore, he’d already spent over $1,000 on the trip – and the accommodation for the group of 12 friends was in his name. Surely, she didn’t expect him to cancel?
Ultimately, OP and his wife ended up arguing about the situation. She was angry that he wouldn’t back down; he was mad that she wanted him to. He even offered to return the favor, encouraging her to book a similar trip up for herself.
He Went On the trip
OP didn’t change his mind and went on the trip despite his wife’s objections. She called and messaged him a lot throughout it, expressing how upset she was that he’d gone.
He Wanted a Fresh Perspective
They argued again when he got back, but – thankfully – have “since reconciled.” Nevertheless, neither of their viewpoints on the situation have changed. That’s why OP posted his story on Reddit. He wanted a second opinion. Was he in the wrong?
His Story Divided Opinion
People on Reddit had mixed reaction to OP’s tale. Some people were on his side, noting how much he’d spent on the trip and also that his wife had had 6 months to organize extra support. One person wrote:
“Does she not have family nearby? Do you not have family nearby? Did you take all of the other people she knows on the trip with you? She had plenty of notice to even arrange an out of town visit for help at the point where your kid started his sleep regression. Wasting that amount of money is insane to me.”
Others Sided With His Wife
Yet not everyone thought the situation was so clear-cut. One person pointed out that “…Not all of us have family or friends who would/could help out…I know we didn’t when they were young, and trusting a stranger at such a vulnerable time is a lot. We just never made plans away until they got older and more manageable.”
And someone else empathized with his wife, saying: “Didn’t OP say the sleep regression started only a couple of weeks before the trip? Would it be possible to make alternate plans in that amount of time? I’m sure she was having a hard time of it.”
Whose Side Are You On?
So which side of the fence do you fall on? Do you think OP was right to go on the trip he’d had planned for six months and spent over $1,000 on? Or was he wrong to leave his wife by herself when she was clearly unhappy about the prospect of it? Drop a comment with your thoughts.
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