Fuelled by anxiety, his wife’s controlling behavior has led to their kid’s expulsion from multiple day care centers. Frustrated by her actions, the husband decided to issue a firm ultimatum. However, his “threat” didn’t sit well with his wife, resulting in a huge fight. But who’s at fault? Here’s the full story, as told on Reddit:
The original poster (OP) begins by explaining that he and his wife both work. As a result, their 3-year-old daughter has attended daycare for the last two years. In that time, they’ve been kicked out of two separate programs.
Their Expectations Were Too High
OP admits that both he and his wife didn’t understand what daycare entailed at the start. However, while OP soon learned it wasn’t as involved as they’d first hope and reset his expectations accordingly, his wife, who suffers from anxiety, has found it much harder…
His Wife Finds It Difficult
OP says his wife “has a lot of anxiety and worries about [their] daughter.” Apparently, she finds it incredibly hard to see their child even slightly upset and has been receiving therapy to address this. Unfortunately, her anxiety has caused all sorts of problems with the daycare programs…
She Can Be Overbearing
In the first program, OP’s wife would monitor their live feed non-stop and phone them up “multiple times a day.” They spoke about this as a couple numerous times and the school contacted them about it twice, too. On one of those occasions, the “talk” ended up with his wife screaming at a teacher and the director, which led to their immediate termination from the daycare.
She Gets Super Nervous
OP says things were better at the second daycare thanks to the therapy his wife was receiving. However, it didn’t stop her nerves. Apparently, she’d have regular complaints about minor things happening there, such as another child making their daughter cry by taking a toy from her. They eventually left after the daycare suggested it “may not be the best program” for them.
They’re Now in Daycare Number Three
They’re now on to their third daycare. This time, it’s a smaller one run in someone’s home and the woman who runs it “is very nice but also firm.” OP says she doesn’t let his wife cross her boundaries or get away with anything. Unfortunately, their daughter might not be able to stay there much longer…
They Might Get Kicked Out Again
OP just found out his wife’s been bombarding the daycare owner with text messages every day. It’s got so bad that she’s saying she’ll only respond at certain times of day, then sent through pages of their contract with certain sections highlighted, basically telling them about all the policies his wife had breached.
OP Was Furious
This latest development didn’t go down well with OP. He reminded his wife that this daycare was likely their last hope – she’d burned too many bridges and the other places around them were too expensive. Hearing this, she “made a million excuses,” ultimately blaming everything on her anxiety. That’s when OP issue the ultimatum…
He Said She’d Have to Quit Her Job
OP told his wife that if they were forced to leave this daycare program as well, she’d “be the one quitting her job to watch Alexis, not [him].” She wasn’t happy with him about that, and after some more back and forth, has now stopped talking to him altogether. But is OP the bad guy, here?
Reddit Was On His Side
People on Reddit sided with OP. From their perspective, his wife’s the only villain of this particular story. Despite her anxiety, the people who commented on the thread didn’t show much sympathy. One person wrote:
“To keep it 100% honest with you. 20 years down the line, your daughter is going to hate your wife and there’s a high chance she will not be part of your lives. Your wife is the exact definition of a toxic helicopter parent, she’s going to not only ruin your life (already in that process), your daughter’s life in the future, and her own life.”
Maybe She Shouldn’t Be at Home With the Child
Others thought OP’s wife shouldn’t be left at home with their daughter if the current daycare does end up kicking them out.
One person said: “My concern is if your wife is a micro manager and she ends up staying home with your kid – this will not be a good option. My mother was a control freak growing up – took me a long time to try to get confidence after she destroyed the little I had.” Ironically, maybe it’d be better for their child if he quit his job instead.
What Do You Think?
So what’s your perspective on OP’s situation? Is he in the wrong for telling his wife she’ll have to quit her job if they get booted from this daycare program, too? Or is his wife exclusively to blame? Drop a comment with your thoughts.
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